1.06.2010

2010- Be the Change

Happy New Year! A few days late. I give myself until the Chinese New Year (February 14, 2010) to make all New Year decisions so technically I am really early with this one. I have decided on the theme for this year. This year my theme is Be the Change.

Gandhi said "Be the change you want to see in the world" and this is where my theme stems from but it is a little different.

On New Years Day I saw a neighbor who, well, is not a nice neighbor. He is on the HOA and we have gotten a few letters from him during our house flooding incident that basically made me want to punch him.... or write a rebuttal showing what a hypocritical idiot he was. I was crossing the street and there was no way to avoid him. We made eye contact and I could see him bristle. We have had run-ins before and he did not fair well. He is not smart and does not think fast on his feet. I hate to say he was the guy who was always bullied and now throws his HOA "power" around to bully others... but it is kind of true. So back to the showdown. Me crossing the street, him tense and waiting, and I had this thought....

Wouldn't it be better if I was just the neighbor I wanted everyone to be? So I waved and yelled "Happy New Year" and his body relaxed and he might have almost smiled. I asked about his dog and just like that, I didn't feel like punching him anymore. Be the Change I kept telling myself, Be the Change.

Then I put my neighbors (with the loud dogs and crazy pot smoke that comes into my windows) trash cans away because it was obvious they were out of town.

Later T started to drive me a little nuts and I thought "Be the Change" be the girlfriend you should be. And it helped me to get past emotions and feelings and concentrate on being a good partner.

Be the Change is making the choice to be the best version of whatever role I am playing be it sister, lover, neighbor or employee. It means taking that 5 seconds to recognize the two paths before me, and choosing the one that help me be the change I want to see in the world.

To quote Helen Keller "I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; And because I cannot do everything I will not refuse to do the something that I can do."

1 comment:

  1. I love the Hellen Keller quote! And I love your theme!!

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